“But in fact God has placed the parts in the body, every one of them, just as he wanted them to be. If they were all one part, where would the body be? As it is, there are many parts, but one body.” 1 Corinthians 12:18-20
Something it seems like I’ve been very good at doing these days.
“Whoah, look at what that girl is doing with her life, her parents must be so proud. She’s doing awesome ministry and seems like she has her life together. I wish I could be like her.”
“You have the next 5 years of your life planned out?! Wow! Thats awesome! I don’t even know what ill be doing next summer. I wish I could be like you.”
“Wow, kids I graduated with are already on their second year of college. That means for most of them they only have two years left before they graduate. Their parents must be so proud of them.”
“Oh my gosh, listen to her sing! I could never sing like her, she sounds so much better than I do. I wish I could be like her.”
These are the things I tell myself all the time. In my mind, ill never be “as good” as some people. Their lives look so good. They have their friends, school is 1/2 way done for some of them, they know exactly what they are doing with their life…
And then there I am.
I don’t know when I’m going to school.
I don’t know what the future holds for me.
I don’t know.
And you know what? Im learning that is okay with me.
Every time we compare ourselves with someone else, we can never measure up because we’re comparing our insides with their outsides
I catch myself all the time comparing myself with others, and that leads into setting expectations that I can’t reach, which results in failing. Failure makes me feel like poo. I’m being 100% Honest with y’all.
It destroys my self confidence and makes me doubt my own abilities. All because I compared myself to one other person. Because I thought what I was doing wasn’t good enough.
If I spend my whole life comparing myself to others, I would never fully embrace who God made me to be. I wouldn’t be walking in my own identity. I would be chasing to be something else rather than just being me.
And that is so dangerous.
Somedays comparison gets the best of me, today for instance. The first day of school. I see my friends going to their First day back to college. These things shouldn’t bother me, but somedays they do.
But I have come to the realization that my life is different.
I know I am not called to live the “American Dream”
Would I love to be in college right now? YES!
Would I love to have my life planned out? YES!
Would I love to have a career pick out? YES!
But guess what?
My life isn’t mine.
Were all Called to be different parts of the body of Christ. Maybe He needs you to go to school right now. Or maybe He needs to to focus on Mission work right now. Maybe He needs you to stay at home and work. Were all called to do different things for Christ. And the second comparison creeps in, the second I lose sight of those things. The more I want to follow MY own plans.
I gave my life up when my knees hit the ground. I surrendered my plans. My thoughts. My ways.
I realize that just because my life doesn’t look like the ones around me, doesn’t mean I’m not doing something great with my life.
While I was at church camp, some of my friends and I were talking about our lives. I made a comment “Eh, my life stinks. Im not doing anything with myself it feels like” and someone responded back with so much love, and I could hear the confusion in their voice as they said, “but you’re a missionary”
And comparison almost stole that from me. I was busy comparing myself to others, that I forgot why I was here. I lost sight of who I was, because my mind was focused on who I thought I should be.
“Whatever your passion is, keep doing it. Don’t waste time chasing after success or comparing yourself to others. Every flower blooms at a different pace. Excel at doing what your passion is and only focus on perfecting it. Eventually people will see what you are great at doing, and if you are truly great, success will come chasing after you.”
― Suzy Kassem